Love it Graham! I will go even deeper - the fear of rejection (criticism/ judgement) originates in the fear of being unsafe aka dying. As a general rule, rejection doesn’t bode well for one’s survival, be it for an animal or for a human. This need for survival is hard-wired in our brains to guarantee the survival of the species. So it is not easy to overcome and it is totally normal. You are not alone! Of course if you were blessed with a supportive environment growing up you are likely to be way less reactive (or triggered) than someone who was criticized and neglected. The difference between someone who will go beyond and above their fears (regardless or their level of conditioning) and the one who will not will result in an ability to perform “scary” tasks consistently- such as writing and showing one’s work.
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Thanks Peggy! That's a great insight. Social animals must have an innate fear of rejection -- especially those (like humans) who are much less likely to survive and thrive on their own than in a group. Rejection is one step closer to getting voted off the island, isn't it?!?
I certainly agree with this argument.
Thanks David!
Have you had any personal experience with this?
Most of the time when I publish in a public form, I am concerned for the reception.
Ah, yes - fair enough!
Love it Graham! I will go even deeper - the fear of rejection (criticism/ judgement) originates in the fear of being unsafe aka dying. As a general rule, rejection doesn’t bode well for one’s survival, be it for an animal or for a human. This need for survival is hard-wired in our brains to guarantee the survival of the species. So it is not easy to overcome and it is totally normal. You are not alone! Of course if you were blessed with a supportive environment growing up you are likely to be way less reactive (or triggered) than someone who was criticized and neglected. The difference between someone who will go beyond and above their fears (regardless or their level of conditioning) and the one who will not will result in an ability to perform “scary” tasks consistently- such as writing and showing one’s work.
And here is a shameless plug to my own work: with The Microdose Diet I developed a 90 day protocol to help you go to the next level of success by rewiring your brain. So you can go above and beyond your past limitations and start realizing your potential.
https://themicrodosediet.com/
Thanks Peggy! That's a great insight. Social animals must have an innate fear of rejection -- especially those (like humans) who are much less likely to survive and thrive on their own than in a group. Rejection is one step closer to getting voted off the island, isn't it?!?
Absolutely!!
Of the few you can read, I'm glad you find the time to read my Substack, Graham!
So good to see your picture and read about your travels. Cheers!
Oh, I read them all! Just not as often as I would like, unfortunately. So many great writers out there -- you included!
And yes, a great little work vacation. You keep writing about visiting friends, I thought I'd try it myself... lol